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Guest, Angelica Holiday, shares her ideas on Friend or Friendly?
While chatting to Sara (my very young 70 neighbor), I blurted out “friend or friendly.” Sara paused and repeated my statement, “friend or friendly.” Before she could answer the question, I did so for her. “She’s not your friend Sara, she’s taking advantage of you.” I was trying to explain the difference between who is a friend and who is friendly.
Our conversation began when Sara complained that her friend had reneged on a financial promise, leaving her in the lurch. I said “…that’s not a friend,” that was someone trying to be friendly for her own gain.” Sara planned to ask her for half the financial amount she felt this friend owed her. I said don’t let her screw you
Catching up with Idalis De Leon recently was a real treat. Idalis is a (fabulous) Hollywood actress, media talent and top media trainer, a friend and former colleague. We discussed true friendship, especially in high-powered burghs like Hollywood.
She’s crazy busy with training on air talent, and going on TV auditions. Recently, while watching my “guilty pleasure” on TV, “Burn Notice,” I see Idalis playing a baddie in stillettos!
So that triggered a call, which lead to a brainstorm storming session about true friendship.
Since the show I’ve worked on Super Friend Groups, so we discussed what true friendship really is in the big city. While struggling in your career in that wonderful, crazy city, you attract like-minded folk. Some make it, others (the majority) don’t. But usually at one time, everyone struggles.
What happens when that struggle turns into neediness, self-obsession?
Ask yourself about close friends: why is it so hard to make these connections? Are you competitive or adventurous, loving or combative, supportive or a gossip. Since close friends are vital for your health, go deeper into your friendships rather than gathering more and more friend bodies. Take the quiz and find out how you’re connecting with your close friends.
Go to QUIZ – CLICK IMAGE!
Amazing and recent insights on the value of close friendships…
I have a terrific, lovely friend, Gabby. She’s curious, wholesome, generous, loving. And, she had a really, really bizarre and funky relationship with a business gal pal. This gal pal was often mean to Gabby. To Gabby it felt like friend rejection, she was never good enough, this gal pal put her down, tells her what to do or not to do, then ignores her, ugh.
Now, I’m not your usual friend. I shoot from the hip with compassion – kind of like Judge Judy at a meditation retreat – when my friends have personal or professional issues. I don’t candy coat the issue. I’m not sentimental (although I sometimes go awwww at cat videos). I give measured, and thoughtful (my words) responses (my husband thinks I should’ve been a lawyer) to my friends. Bottom line, I love solving real friend problems, issues, puzzles, and know that this kind of friend rejection sucks.
However, Gabby’s particular friend issue was baffling to me. I was left scratching my head… until yesterday.