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Once upon a time I had a friend who always had to be right. She was argumentative, and dismissed others’ ideas. She just loved to “win” the argument, not realizing that those around her threw up their hands in frustration not defeat. Why did this friend insist on being right? Or, is this you? “Come on, it’s just fun. I love the challenge.” When you argue and “win” you get a wonderful brain flow from our fight/flight response – a dose of adrenaline and dopamine. A big fat brain reward. But, you can get addicted to this way of communicating. “Does your argumentative style hurt friends?” Take the QUIZ and find out!!
When you’re constantly in the “fight” mode (of “fight-flight” response) it has a powerful negative impact on those around you. This Quiz is based on a Lifehacker article – “Why Your Brain is Hooked on Being Right” by Judith Glaser. Based on an executive coach’s business angle, here are friendship parallels too. You can hurt friends by displaying this behavior. Ask yourself – are you really sharing information or you vying for status?
“Connecting and bonding with others trumps conflict. I’ve found that even the best fighters—the proverbial smartest guys in the room—can break their addiction to being right by getting hooked on oxytocin-inducing behavior instead,” Judith Glaser, “Why Your Brain is Hooked on Being Right.
Remember… you don’t have to hurt friends; build healthy friendships and that process starts with you!
For more insights into friendship go to “How to be on a Winning Team with Great Friends,” and “Plug in to get Better Friend Connections.” We’d love to hear your feedback and get your comments and post ideas!!
Image courtesy: Princess Dominica – by Albert Pierre (Own work) [CC-BY-SA-3.0 (http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-sa/3.0)], via Wikimedia Commons; and, Penguin Arguing image by By Mimooh (Own work) [CC-BY-SA-3.0 (http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-sa/3.0)], via Wikimedia Commons.
© Glenda Shaw_Superfriendgroups.com 2014
Please note: I hide specific and identifiable details in my friend stories as these stories are examples of behavior and not meant to hurt anyone. These stories are based on my opinion and perspective, except when the people written about are in the public domain. Any advice in this blog is from my insights, research and opinion only, and must not be considered as legal or medical advice.