Frenemies! Do you have one… really?

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“Frenemies” has become popular word describing friends you love to hate. Are these labels real or hyped by the media? We’ve been bombarded by media images of how friends should act or what they should mean to you. But let’s face it, when we watch television shows about runway models you understand that if you wore those fashionista clothes you would probably be the laughing stock of your social circle. So stop thinking frenemies and friends – they’re all one. Chuck out your media hyped notions.

As I’ve been a media producer for years, I’m launching my first Super Friend Groups post shaking up a common friend buzz word and discover friends… your way!

Frenemies: In the Bubble

  • Most of us have at least one “frenemy” in our friend network. This word that first appeared in print in 1953 “Howz about calling the Russians our Frienemies?” by Winchell, W. (19 May 1953) Nevada State Journal, Gannett Company (Wikipedia), and has been used as endless magazine fodder in the past decade.

Frenemies: Outside the Bubble

  • OK, stop right there, “frenemies” is a media-made buzz word, so re-think how to assess the real friend standing in front of you. Often, the most difficult relationships can deliver the most valuable lessons. Or, not. And if not, why do you feel trapped in this unsuccessful relationship? In the next month we’ll directly address the Reality Check issues in the Friends Mediation section.

Being a media producer for 20 years, I know that catchy provocative short cuts are a great way to pitch stories to the Executives or Editors. Frenemies is an easy-to-understand label that grabs peoples’ attention, but often that’s all it is. It’s time to separate the myths from the reality to design your own successful friend future.


My sister, who’s an executive life coach in Australia, discusses the word “should”:

“My comments on the use of “should” is very much from my own coaching experience… 99% of the time if I hear ‘should’ it’s because it is actually someone else’s voice behind the thought. E.g. Parents; the nuns; old teachers; society in general etc. It is usually not authentically their own idea and often there is built in resistance.”

Check out the friends at work post!

Remember…. A great friend starts with you!

© Glenda Shaw / 2014

Please note: I hide specific and identifiable details in my friend stories as these stories are examples of behavior and not meant to hurt anyone. These stories are based on my opinion and perspective, except when the people written about are in the public domain. Any advice is from opinion and research and must not be viewed as legal or medical advice.


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