Can You Be an Honest friend?

Are you an honest friend?
Honest Friend Image: Courtesy of Alik90 (], via Wikimedia Commons

Be honest with me now: Do you feel bad when a friend asks your opinion and you’re too afraid to tell them the truth? You don’t want to hurt her/his feelings as they’ve worked hard on the project, event, or outfit. I wish I had some honest friends when I had my make-up done for a friend’s wedding by the guy who did Danielle Steel’s (or one of those popular writing dames) TV make up. I had so much goop on my face, and lines highlighting this brow and that beauty spot, I didn’t recognize myself in the mirror. During the reception I got a few surprised looks. After the wedding I laughed out loud when I saw the photos. What on earth was I thinking?

Honest Friends are the best policy… embrace the cliché.

Have you ever hidden the real deal from a friend and it’s come back to bite you in the butt? Yes, and yes. I had an incident many years ago when I worked at a newspaper and Jen was a budding writer. She desperately wanted to get a piece published, so I assured her an opportunity and gave her an assignment, without reading her prior work. When the article arrived it was terrible. But, I gritted my teeth and showed it to my boss, who tossed it on the floor just missing the garbage can. If I wanted to print this junk I had to re-write it. Which I did, to my friend’s horror. She accused me of setting her up for failure. I’d intercepted her dream, which was being a published writer. Continue reading “Can You Be an Honest friend?”

Could You Save a friend? Take the Quiz…

Intern Daniel Hernández Jr. receives a standing ovation for saving former U.S. Representative Gabrielle Giffords’ life. Photo by Chuck Kennedy – Executive Office of the President of the United States.

How can you save a friend? A few days ago, my pal Annie went to her friend and client’s apartment for their regular appointment. But, what turned out to be a regular meeting turned into a life and death situation. To save a friend had not been on the cards that day for Annie, but luckily she was at the right place at the right time!

“I had an appointment with her at noon today. I went to her apartment and knocked, then pounded over and over again,” Annie said. “I could hear her dog scratching and barking, but my friend never came to the door.

“I called Jacob, another friend in the apartments.” Jacob had a spare set of keys. He admitted that he hadn’t seen the friend in two days. “This also means that the dog had no food or water!”

Jacob went to her apartment with Annie, and found their friend lying on her bed, “Blown up to twice her size, and next to death. Jacob called 911 to save a friend. “I knew immediately that she overdosed,” Annie explained that she suspected her friend had an addiction to prescription drugs. “If I hadn’t gone to our meeting and contacted Jacob, I am sure she would have died on the hour. That’s the most weird feeling, to save a friend.”

Could you save a friend?

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How to make sure you could save a friend!

–    Be proactive when a friend’s going through a rough patch.
–    Learn CPR.
–    Review the signs of alcoholism or drug abuse. Continue reading “Could You Save a friend? Take the Quiz…”

Gay marriage… friends argue over issues!

Gay Marriage Cookies for Gay Pride

You believe in gay marriage, your friend doesn’t… let’s call the whole thing off? Do your friends argue over controversial issues? In fact, you’re 180 degrees apart on what you consider basic human rights, but they don’t see it that way? If you like friends who argue, you may enjoy having these debates to exercise your brain. However, for many others it’s a pain in the butt to have to continually defend an opinion that you believe is on the right side of history.

Agree to Disagree?

My friend AJ found that to “Agree to Disagree” can be a “safe phrase” in friendship. If you have Continue reading “Gay marriage… friends argue over issues!”

Making and Keeping Friends!

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Sam Geiger

Sam Geiger, this week’s guest blogger, is a poet, former martial artist and writer-for-hire, delicately steeped in spiritual studies and music, with a full dose of English study at University of California, Irvine. She shares her opinions on making and keeping friends for this week’s post.

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The key, as I have found, to maintaining healthy friendships, comes first from an acceptance of the self. To say that you cannot love someone else before you love yourself is too facile; it is more accurate to say that one must accept oneself to fully accept others.

1) Be passionate. Be, as some might snidely say, a dork. Get excited about the things you like. Sharing them with other people can come as easily as breathing when you have a deep love for things that interest you.

2) Be critical of your behavior, but be kind to yourself. It is easy to swing too far in one direction or the other; to become egotistical on one end, or self-deprecating on the other. Being self-aware is the key. Realizing how your behaviors affect yourself and the people around you can help you shape your Continue reading “Making and Keeping Friends!”