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Why do people treat their friends like pets? In many articles writers interview and discuss people’s friends, but they leave me wondering if they’re talking about the four-legged friends or the biped variety. Good companions, fun to play… although a few may have quirky behavior; some bite while others act like Labradors. Maybe you’ve “bought” one or two (metaphorically) while others you’ve rescued. But, mostly they’ve brought joy (occasional angst) into your life and home.
I’ve thought about the “why,” and have the answer. And, this answer will lead to astounding new insights and resolutions, intentions and new friend rituals for 2014.
Yes, your pets are cross-species friends and terrific companions, yet the biped variety are your future. Yes,
While teaching a Monday night writing class for Create Now at Camp David Gonzales, a county-run juvenile probation school and rehabilitation facility, I was told that many of the youth get upset and agitated during the holiday season. Bombarded by images of happy families, with the cornucopia of gifts resting at the base of a huge colorful tree in a snuggly living room… wasn’t part of their lives.
Some youth felt lucky, if a family member showed up for a holiday visit. But for many, their families were no-shows with excuses ranging from no transportation, too busy, no babysitter for the other children, we have to visit grandpa and can’t do both trips. So, no family member available to hug you during these holidays.
Sam Geiger, this week’s guest blogger, is a poet, former martial artist and writer-for-hire, delicately steeped in spiritual studies and music, with a full dose of English study at University of California, Irvine.
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The key, as I have found, to maintaining healthy friendships, comes first from an acceptance of the self. To say that you cannot love someone else before you love yourself is too facile; it is more accurate to say that one must accept oneself to fully accept others.
1) Be passionate. Be, as some might snidely say, a dork. Get excited about the things you like. Sharing them with other people can come as easily as breathing when you have a deep love for things that interest you.
2) Be critical of your behavior, but be kind to yourself. It is easy to swing too far in one direction or the other; to become egotistical on one end, or self-deprecating on the other. Being self-aware is the key. Realizing how your behaviors affect yourself and the people around you can help you shape your
Question: What have Lauryn Hill and Zach Braff, Cameron Diaz and Snoop Dogg, Gwyneth Paltrow and Maya Rudolph all got in common? Answer at the end of the post.
In honor of Universal Children’s Day on November 20th, the United Nations brings attention to children’s causes and initiatives. I’m going to discuss the ABCs of friendship. In preparation, I read a psychological article Growing Friendships, by Eileen Kennedy-Moore, Ph.D, which discusses children’s social and emotional development. As I am not a parent or psychologist, I trust she’s guiding parents to build successful child friendships. Help your child share toys, be kind, compliment your friend and show openness, “Be my friend.”
Show and Tell
Are you showing or telling your children how to be a great friend? I’m asking you, the adults, if you’re a great friend? How can you expect your child to share their toys when you don’t share yours? How can
In this month’s Esquire (November 11, 2013), Tom Junod writes a revealing profile of mega celebrity, George Clooney. A significant point woven through the paragraphs is who tells a mega star the truth about their actions? Who helps them grow – regardless of your fame and fortune – rather than being their “yes” people? In entertainment, being a yes person is often a condition of employment.
Think about it, who has your back? Have you surrounded yourself with yes people or real friends who help you through life with solid advice?
George confesses that his dad delivers solid, shoot-from-the-hip advice. However, in a revealing paragraph about Russell Crowe the reader is left scratching their head wondering who
When I produced for the Montel Williams show in the 1990s we booked an amazing therapist who was adamant that you must never lie. I guess, if you’re faced with a survival situation you may be given a pass, but otherwise… never. Why (besides the obvious)? Because your health will suffer, you are more likely to divorce and your dog will have an unhappy life (or die faster) – basically, it ain’t good. Not sure about his canine stats but it sure made for a great tease in the show.
What jolted my memory about this extraordinary therapist, was reading the account of Dylan Davies in his recent appearance on 60 Minutes and his version of the Benghazi attack in the Huffington Post. Davies original version differs from his recently published book and the TV show. While that’s for their lawyers and producers to sort out, I thought this may be an opportunity to address how to deal with friends who tell you porky pies – lies! (Porky pies is Cockney slang for lies.)
Angelica Holiday, this week’s guest blogger, writes about her experience with cancer and the powerful impact her friends had on her life during this period. She shares 15 tips and insights on how you can be a great friend to your friend during this time.
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In honor of National Breast Cancer Awareness month, I want to share my friend experiences for both my recovery and my friends. When I found out my closest friend had breast cancer I was devastated. In a strange twist of fate, a month after her last chemo, I couldn’t get off my bathroom floor but I was so sick I had to get to my doctor. I lay on those cold tiles slowly brushing my hair knowing something was wrong, terribly wrong. I was diagnosed with Stage 4 Hodgkin’s Lymphoma. My close friend and many other friends stepped beyond the call of duty for me. I wouldn’t have got through this experience without them with such grace.Friends are a vital part toward recovery and these are how you, as a friend can be there for another in need. During that time, even my big burly, weight lifter, health fanatic guy friend was diagnosed with breast cancer – so all these ideas may be amended for men.
Here are my top 15 Tips – from understanding “Chemo Brain” to buying a crazy wig – on how to help your friend with love and action:
- Drive them to all their appointments. Attend the appointment because the info will be overwhelming and you can help to remind as things go. My friends traded off for each other for me. Oh, and they many need help to sort of their pills – drug
During my career I’ve made friends with my bosses, and as a boss, with my employees. Both with mixed results. For National Boss’s Day, this is how to make informed decisions about your friend/boss connection.
Are you “friend enough” to handle this relationship?
Answer the following questions:
1. What if you want a promotion and another colleague gets the position? How would you start that conversation with your boss / friend?
TOP 5 FRIEND DREAM ACTIONS:
We all want friends who truly love and understand you regardless of your “personality quirks, temperament and odd fixations/habits.” So, I compiled a list of the Top 5 friend dream actions.
- After an argument with your friend she calls and offers to take you to dinner, knowing it was probably their fault and you’re usually always right. And it’s their treat!
- You’ve both got a crush on that cool sports buff at the gym but your friend says s/he’s more your type so why don’t you go for it. Well, you’ve got the friend blessing haven’t you?
- When you’re feeling down your friend spends hours and hours with you so you can cry on their shoulder. S/he buys you ice cream and tortillas (my favorite – can you bring salsa too?) and agrees that you’ve been wronged.
- Sometimes when your friend has nothing to do they’ll come over and do your housework and laundry – just because they love you.
- So you can relax on the weekends, they’ll babysit your children all weekend, so you can go to the spa, or shopping spree. In fact, they want to pay for your day of luxury even though it’s not your birthday.
TOP 5 FRIEND REALITIES:
While loving and supporting your friends, these friend dreams are just that – fantasy. If you have friends who pamper (enable?) you, you won’t grow. Here’s the beautiful realities and how you can make real friendships rock!